A couple days ago I was pondering my wonderful marriage. I realized that I was the more selfish one in the relationship. Sterling loves spending time with me. He wants more time together than I typically do. I spend my time with the kids, cleaning the house and with my husband. I do take time for myself when Sterling is at work. I take time to facebook, watch a girly show, and do something fun for me like scrapbooking or making hair bows. When Sterling is home from work I spend time with him but then I find myself also wanting to do stuff for me and do stuff alone. Even though Sterling still wants to be with me I would rather go do something for me or sometimes even do some housecleaning that I was not able to get to because of the kids.
Yesterday evening Sterling brought up our marriage; as often happens due to the constant reminder of others that marriage isn't always as wonderful as ours. Sterling said "But I could be less selfish". I almost laughed at that. I then told him how I was thinking I was the more selfish one in our relationship.
He said "I spend more of the money." Which is true. He does always say that we need to save money and not spend but then he ends up buying more unnecessary things than I do. "How are you selfish?" he asked. I told him about my wanting more time for just me. He agreed that was true.
So yesterday we pointed out one way our marriage isn't perfect.
However, in that conversation we also proved how amazing our marriage is that we both see past our spouse's greed and see only how we could improve ourselves. That proves we are selfless in some ways.
The funny thing is that the times I do think "I wish Sterling would do that for me" and I realize he could be more selfless are the times I feel guilt for thinking of myself and wishing he were different.
Sterling is not perfect (neither am I) but it would be a truly amazing world if all men were like him.
Monday, June 8, 2015
Celebrate 30 years of Tiffany
I love birthdays! For Sterling's 30th we did not have a party. That's his favorite way to celebrate. But for me...I definitely wanted a party.
The perfect party theme...Swing Dancing!
The Saturday after my birthday some friends came over to celebrate with us. Al & Malinda Stone and James & Martha Aston. I decorated with store bought silver stars hanging from the ceiling and black cutout silhouettes of swing dancing couples which I had cut out myself. I had decorated the tv room and there we danced. Sterling and I taught our friends some basic dance moves: the Triple Step, Rock Step, Bow Tie and the She-He turn. We practiced those moves and then turned on Swing music. We danced a while and it was a lot of fun.
I started Swing dancing in high school. I fell in love with it right away! I joined the school's swing dance club and I thought it was amazing. Unfortunately the leaders of the club graduated and nobody knew enough swing to take over.
Then Zack Guymon who became my best friend happened to love swing dancing too. So we would practice together. When my brother Aaron got married Zack and I were pretty good at swing dancing. At the wedding reception we showed off our moves. I didn't have any idea if it even looked good because I was doing it. But one day, years after the wedding, (I think it was Nicole) someone showed me a video from the reception that showed some of our dancing and it looked awesome! I wish I had that video. I have asked Aaron and Nicole to see if they can find it but I never heard back from them about it.
I went to a swing dance club, free at BYU, once with friends. Since then I've only danced with my husband. We practiced basic swing. I was trying to teach Sterling to swing because I love it so much and he was willing to do it for me. But it's not as fun when you don't do it all the time...when you are out of practice. It's fun when you dance so much that you and your partner are good at it. Sterling and I...we are out of practice.
At my 30th party we danced. We hung out while our kids played in the boys' bedroom.
I served chicken salad croissant sandwiches and we had brownies and ice cream for dessert.
30 years of happiness. And my life is more amazing than ever. My life is perfect. God blesses me in more way than I can count.
The perfect party theme...Swing Dancing!
The Saturday after my birthday some friends came over to celebrate with us. Al & Malinda Stone and James & Martha Aston. I decorated with store bought silver stars hanging from the ceiling and black cutout silhouettes of swing dancing couples which I had cut out myself. I had decorated the tv room and there we danced. Sterling and I taught our friends some basic dance moves: the Triple Step, Rock Step, Bow Tie and the She-He turn. We practiced those moves and then turned on Swing music. We danced a while and it was a lot of fun.
I started Swing dancing in high school. I fell in love with it right away! I joined the school's swing dance club and I thought it was amazing. Unfortunately the leaders of the club graduated and nobody knew enough swing to take over.
Then Zack Guymon who became my best friend happened to love swing dancing too. So we would practice together. When my brother Aaron got married Zack and I were pretty good at swing dancing. At the wedding reception we showed off our moves. I didn't have any idea if it even looked good because I was doing it. But one day, years after the wedding, (I think it was Nicole) someone showed me a video from the reception that showed some of our dancing and it looked awesome! I wish I had that video. I have asked Aaron and Nicole to see if they can find it but I never heard back from them about it.
I went to a swing dance club, free at BYU, once with friends. Since then I've only danced with my husband. We practiced basic swing. I was trying to teach Sterling to swing because I love it so much and he was willing to do it for me. But it's not as fun when you don't do it all the time...when you are out of practice. It's fun when you dance so much that you and your partner are good at it. Sterling and I...we are out of practice.
At my 30th party we danced. We hung out while our kids played in the boys' bedroom.
I served chicken salad croissant sandwiches and we had brownies and ice cream for dessert.
30 years of happiness. And my life is more amazing than ever. My life is perfect. God blesses me in more way than I can count.
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